Sexy Intimate Wear for Beginners: Why You Should Wear It and How to Rock It Like a Boss

There are two types of people in the world. The first type sees lingerie as foundation wear and not much else. The second type knows the right lingerie can be an absolute game changer when it comes to their sex life. Intimate wear is a simple, but very effective way to spice things up in the bedroom or put an end to a sexual rut. It can open the door to some exciting new possibilities as well.

Lingerie isn’t just about making the entire sexual experience hotter for your partner either. Embracing intimate wear for everything it can be also comes with plenty of benefits for you. Here we’ll go over everything a beginner needs to know about making intimate apparel a part of their own sexual repertoire, including why they should do it in the first place and how they should go about getting started.

Why Should I Care About Lingerie?

On the one hand, we know we should care what we wear under our clothes. If we’re not concerned with what our partners or other people in general think of our choices, we know we should at least care for our own sakes. Is it really that important though? And what’s in it for you, anyway? Let’s take a closer look at some of those benefits.

You get to reclaim your femininity. 

These days, women are expected to be superheroes that not only want it all but are willing to do whatever it takes to have it all. As a result, so many of us are doing the impossible – juggling full family lives with high-powered careers, busy social calendars, and so much more. Sometimes it can be hard to feel truly feminine in the face of all that. Beautiful lingerie that’s as lovely to wear and look at as it is practical can really help. 

Your confidence will go through the roof.

Even though few people like to admit it, how they look can make a big difference in how they feel about themselves. We all have favorite “power outfits” that make us feel like a million bucks every time we put them on – outfits we reach for when we really want to feel confident and make the best possible impression. The right sexy lingerie is like a power outfit for the bedroom, meaning it’s virtually impossible not to rock it in the sack when you’re wearing something that makes you feel like an absolute goddess. 

It’s an easy way to show your partner you care.

Think back to when you first started dating your partner. You probably agonized over what you wore for your first date and put extra effort into how you put yourself together on days you knew you might cross paths. You almost certainly put a lot of thought into what you had on under your clothes for your first overnight date, right? While it’s natural and normal to relax a little around your partner after you’ve been together a while, it’s also nice for the special someone in your life to know they’re still worth some effort. Wearing sexy lingerie, you know your partner will love seeing you in is a great way to let them know you still care.

How Do I Choose the Right Lingerie for Me?

Of course, knowing you’re ready to give intimate apparel a shot is one thing. Figuring out which option is best for you may be another matter altogether though, especially if you’re brand new to choosing intimate wear with the “sexy factor” in mind. The following tips should help you zero in on a choice both you and your partner will be happy with.

Decide what makes you feel sexy.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to be fabulously fit or model skinny to look good in lingerie. Absolutely anyone, no matter what their body type, can look (and feel) incredible in intimate wear. It’s just a matter of knowing what styles flatter you most. A big part of that is understanding how a particular item makes you feel about yourself.

For instance, let’s say you’re not nuts about your butt or your thighs, but you’re over-the-moon confident about the awesome rack and beautiful collar bones you were blessed with. Pick something like a silky knee-length negligee that also happens to be low-cut. Always remember that lingerie isn’t all about pleasing the other person. It’s also about making the person wearing it feel like an absolute goddess, so if one option doesn’t do that for you, keep looking until you find the one that does.

Consider what your partner likes as well.

Although picking something that makes you feel sexy should be your top priority, you naturally want your partner to like what you pick as well. No two people are really alike when it comes to their turn-ons. One person may be all about stocking sets complete with garters while another could be all about soft, silky fabrics like satin or corsets that show off a woman’s curves to perfection. 

A great intimate apparel choice falls somewhere between what you know your partner is totally into and what you personally like on yourself. When your partner compliments your body, what do they focus on? If they can’t stop raving about your sexy stomach, your perfectly round booty, or your graceful shoulders, then definitely choose lingerie that plays those features up. You can always just ask them what they’d like to see you in as well if you’re not sure (or go shopping together).

Take the practical side of things into consideration.

A word to the wise – how your lingerie or intimate wear of choice looks isn’t the only important factor to keep in mind. You’ll also want to consider the logistics of wearing whatever it is for a sexy night in bed. Will the option you’re considering be easy to take off when things really get to simmering? Skintight vinyl catsuits or elaborate roleplay costumes with tons of straps and buttons may look sexy, but could very well be a pain when it comes time to take it off.

You may also want to consider whether you want lingerie that has to be taken off at all. The feeling of satin, silk, velvet, or lace against one’s skin can be incredibly arousing. If that’s something you’d like to experience (or that you know your partner would enjoy), you might want to leave your options open. If you choose something that offers easy access and is comfortable to move around in, you might not have to worry about taking it off at all!

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that sexy lingerie has to break the bank to be effective either, because it doesn’t. Look for items that strike a good balance between form and function. Think bra and panty sets, teddies, or negligees that are alluring, but also well-made enough to actually be integrated into your everyday rotation as actual lingerie or sleepwear. Start watching for sales at your favorite lingerie shops, department stores, and sex shops as well. Sales and specials are perhaps the best way to build a stunning lingerie collection that’s also affordable. Get started today!