Long Distance Relationships: Your Guide to Keeping Yours Healthy, Happy and Hot

Whether you’ve been in a long-distance relationship a few times before or are getting ready to tackle one for the very first time, you probably don’t need us to tell you that the LDR life can get pretty hard. You get lonely. You miss each other. Not getting to spend as many weekends and holidays together as you’d like is really the pits. 


Then there’s the huge challenge of keeping your sex life hot and heavy to consider! Keeping things happy, sexy, and harmonious definitely takes some creativity when you’re dealing with distance, but it’s not impossible. Keep the following pointers in mind to take some of the guesswork out of the process for yourself and your partner.


Regular communication is a must.


Modern technology gives us so many different options when it comes to staying as connected as we want to be. Make sure you’re taking proper advantage of them to not only communicate with your partner frequently and regularly, but to get creative as to how you do it. Use the rhythm of the daily routine you’d keep if you were physically together as a cue to work from. 


Start every day with a “good morning” text and end it with “good night” or “sweet dreams”. Make it a point to update each other throughout the day or week with the little goings on of your lives. When it makes sense or you feel moved to, send each other videos or photos as well.


Keep your interactions appropriately spicy.


Sex and desire are vitally important parts of every relationship. That won’t stop being the case for yours just because you can’t physically be together right now either, so you’ll need some go-to ways to not only relieve sexual tension but arouse it in one another. 


Options like sexy Skype sessions, X-rated phone calls, and the like are givens. However, adding a little spice to your everyday interactions is important too. Flirt with each other over text throughout the day. Tease each other with sizzling selfies or naughty little innuendos. It’s a great way to stay close and to keep your relationship on each other’s minds.


Use social media to your advantage.


One of the biggest advantages any long-distance couple has in their corner these days is social media. Platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram were literally created to help people connect and help them feel like they’re truly part of each other’s everyday lives whether they physically are or not. They can definitely help you feel more connected to your long-distance partner.


Make it a point to be interactive in regard to the social media content you post. Tweet at each other or tag each other in memes or posts that remind you of one another. Write on each other’s walls or share fun little things you find online during the day. Like each other’s photos and comment often. Social media interaction may be a routine part of your daily life, but it can still be very effective when it comes to feeling close to that special someone.


Send each other gifts and care packages.


Sometimes when things get really tough or lonely, a physical reminder of your beloved makes all the difference in the world. Make sure you’re regularly sending one another little gifts and keepsakes. They can be meaningful things like jewelry or romantic gifts, but don’t underestimate the power of something as everyday as a sweater you’ve worn, or a handwritten letter spritzed with a bit of your favorite fragrance.


Care packages can be a great way to keep things sexy and spicy as well. Try putting together the occasional shipment filled with naughtier items to enjoy together over Skype or to make solo time with yourselves a little more interesting. Think interactive sex toys that can be controlled via smartphone apps, erotica to read together, sexy framed boudoir photos or sexy intimate lingerie to wear during chat sessions!


Find clever ways to do things together.


Again, technology is totally your friend these days if you’re in a long-distance relationship. Use it to plan fun or romantic dates to enjoy together. Clear your schedules on the same Friday and plan a movie night. Pop some bags of popcorn, queue up the same favorite flick on Netflix, and watch it together over Skype. Order each other pizzas and have a pizza party on a Sunday afternoon. Go on a walk together over video call.


What you do and how you do it is completely up to you, but definitely be creative. There’s likely a way to turn just about any activity into a joint experience if you put your minds to it. Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous from time to time as well! Whether it’s just for a weekend or you’re dealing with a situation that’s more indefinite, staying close to the one you love across long distances is definitely doable. It just takes a little ingenuity and determination.